My Sexuality and I: My Unashamed Love 💕

My Story and Sexuality

Sexuality can be a tricky subject to navigate, especially when you’re young and still figuring out who you are. But one thing I’ve learned through my own journey is that your sexuality is yours to define, and there’s no shame in it—no matter what it looks like or the world's views. This is my story and I hope it inspires you.

Growing up, I had a close friend named Franca. We were very close and everyone knew us. 

Then, I was more often attracted to girls at different times and we could be so close.

Today, a lot of young people get attracted to persons of different sexual orientation - a girl can get attracted to a girl, a boy to a boy, a girl to a boy and vice versa. There is nothing wrong with this on a platonic basis. Child

This has been falsely interpreted as them having a different sexual orientation from whom their Maker made them, which informs their gender identity - gay, lesbian and every other identity. This has led to other forms of sexual orientations apart from male and female.

The purpose of this article is not to delve into these orientations and gender identities but to build self confidence in young persons regarding their sexuality, hence finding true love.

Back to my story. However, as I grew older, I became attracted to my male counterparts. My closest pals became males. 

As children grow up, a lot of things affect their mindset, experiences and emotions. 

Although, there was nothing to suggest to me that I may not be female after all, one thing that guided me was the Word of God. Although I was shy, the Word of God built confidence in me. 

I remember a girl then, who was getting attracted to me in a non-natural way. I could feel the attraction strongly but I didn't give in to it and soon overcame it because she became one of my prospects that I would preach the word of God to innocently as instructed by God's Word. I was only about 11-12 years old then. 

We live in a world that has confused sexual orientations and gender identities. 

But as young people, it is important to understand who we are. 

We are either male or female. This is the ideal. Although, we have a rare case of intersex. 

According to Planned Parenthood, "Intersex is a general term used for a variety of situations in which a person is born with reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t fit the boxes of “female” or “male.” Sometimes doctors do surgeries on intersex babies and children to make their bodies fit binary ideas of “male” or “female”. Doctors always assign intersex babies a legal sex (male or female, in most states), but, just like with non-intersex people, that doesn’t mean that’s the gender identity they’ll grow up to have. "

We are not discussing intersex and issues related to that now.

However, as parents, if you find out that your children are intersex, seek medical and expert advice. Children born this way can be discriminated against and this ought not to be so. They can be helped through psychosocial counselling and medically. Before they conduct surgeries, they usually check for certain features in the child. Government should also support subsidizing these processes as they could be expensive.

Every child deserves to understand and own their unique sexuality as either male or female and maximize it.

Don't be confused by the world's standards. If your biological compositions are either male or female, then you are one. This is what God original made and we ought to abide by His standards.

Embrace and love your sexuality for there lies your uniqueness. 

Loving your sexuality is loving you. That way, you will maintain abstinence from sex until you're married because you know who you are. 

That's the best way you can celebrate this valentine. Remember, love is not sex and sex is not love. You don't need anyone's validation of how beautiful and lovely you are. Keep loving you. You're special.

Let your sexuality be your unashamed love in the right sense. 

Happy Valentine's Day.💕💓💌

Bliss Ojeruse

Saving Hand Development Initiative

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